Marriage is an event for a lifetime. Every youth wishes to make that special moment a memorable event not only for him/her but for all those who become a part of it. Today wedding ceremonies have become a status symbol for all therefore the marketing aspect plays a very significant role in the whole celebration.

Of the several aspects that come up once the marriage is finalized, the
most important are probably the shopping and marketing. This is an extensive
process, and as is quite obvious, involves a lot of expenditure. It begins
with the purchase of the apparel for the bride and groom respectively
.The groom makes the choice of his wedding suit which he would wear at
the marriage reception, popularly known as ‘bou bhat’ in Bengali marriages.
Previously it was some stylish 'dhoti' or 'churidar' or 'pajama' and 'panjabi(kurta)'
with lots of embroidery which was the most favourite among grooms for
this occasion . But these days they are opting for the alternative called
'sherwani', the preference of which is growing day by day........More

Every Human being wants to have and enjoy A happy and peaceful Married life. Do you want the Same in your Life. If 'yes', then take care of the following :

I find this as a very appropriate topic taking into consideration the present moment. If you just look around yourself, you will see unhappy and unsuccessful marriages where most of them end up in separation with extremely painful and heart broken life. It is really a pity, don't you feel so..? Nowadays if you take 100 couples who are married and consider their life very closely you will find different kinds of disputes and disturbances have eclipsed their happiness and peace of mind. This is such a shame. This happens primarily because of the unconsidering nature of the husband or the wife or sometimes for both of them. Because where family should be the most important and valuable thing in man's life, most of them destroy their entire happiness in life by simply and completely misunderstanding the sentiments of one another.

Here we will discuss the factors that really affect the status of a married life. This is something most of us never think about till or before we actually think of getting married. The reason behind this is the lack of experience and lack of knowledge. I can also say that because of some sort of ignorance of the future husband and wife, this becomes absolutely unavoidable. Basically the young people do not spend time to ponder over the different aspects of married life before they tie the eternal knot. That’s why they remain quite ignorant of these problems and can not tackle them as and when they come and stand in front of them in truly awesome manner.

Here comes the importance of two things which are very essential for each and every person should get them before thinking of getting married. Firstly, the parents of the boy or the girl should spend some time with their wards and share their experiences with them. They should make them know all the important factors that may affect their married life and they should also tell them how to avoid them first or how to tackle them as and when they hit them.  

Secondly, each and every to-be husband and wife should try to attend some counseling classes on marriage related affairs. These classes present the real life problems to these boys or girls before they get ready to tie the big knot. These classes are really helpful for them to overcome different problems because they have the essential knowledge of them beforehand. By using their knowledge and wit, they can solve their problems in a convenient manner.

In order to live a happy successful marriage, one must recognize the reason and conditions that effect relationship which destroys a heavenly marriage. So what exactly is the cause and effect relationship in a marriage? Have you ever spent some time to consider these things?

After spending quite a lot of time to think over these reasons I have found the following factors that actually affect a married life and decide if you could have a wonderful conjugal life or you end up into a painful and chaotic life.

The first thing one must decide is to, "What exactly you want in your life?” ( In other words,” What is you expectation from your life as far as your personal relationships are concerned?”

Consider your own self in the best possible manner and then find out what type of Man or woman you are looking for and who suits best according to your personality, character etc

Try to find the right person who's well-suited to you the most and be the best friends before you fall in love with your to-be soul mate.

As understanding is the foundation of a true love, so try to get closer to him/ her and take your time to know him/ her really well.  

   Take at least 2 years to study and to know your to-be life-partner and Try to find out the real man or the woman in your partner before you take the final decision to get married.

A beautiful family life is one of the most amazing things one can have in one’s life time. And it is the golden mark of any flourishing man or a woman. It is an important part of human advancement. It's a natural thing. But we slowly keep our self distant from one of the most unbelievably beautiful things that Mother Nature has offered us. Take above Marriage formula in to your deep consideration and think it through really well. And determine to have the most blissful and happy marriage life.

You will be happy for the rest of your life.

A few days ago,I was struck by a news that appaered in almost all the leading newspares of the country.It said that Mr.Lal Krishna Advani, the leader of opposition in the Lok Sabha and an eminent politician of India, cried while watching a film named 'Tare Zameen Par' and I wondered what type of film is that? In a most surprising manner I also saw that film last night and as a matter of fact, tears roled down from eyes as I was really touched by the subject matter of the film and most importantly by the splendid and real-to-life performance of the actors especially the little boy Darsheel Safaryand Amir Khan. I was really mesmerized by the work and effort of the whole production team of 'Tare Zammen Par' which literally means 'reflection of the Stars on the Earth'.

Mr.Amir Khan must be congratulated for making such a wonderful movie which entirely deals with one of the most tremendous problems of the contemporary world-The proper education of the children.As a father of two children as well as an educationist, I was moved to see this film as I felt that Eeshan was my own child and I really start having a sort of tension about the condition of the child. The whole family of Eeshan came very close to my heart.I too believe in the theme of the film which says that 'Every child is special.' True, every child is special but the matter of question is how many of us realize this. As the father of Eeshan did in the film, we do the same thing to our children as we all like to fulfil our unfulfilled dreams through our children without realizing whether he or she is capable of doing that or rather he or she has the least of intrest in that or not. It’s a film about any child that doesn’t ‘belong’ the world of “normal” children, and Aamir has surely seen this up close in his own life, is my firm belief. It’s a film straight from the heart and reaches the heart of every viewer. The mother of Eesahn also palys a pivotal role in grroming her son but in vain. That does not meran that it was her failure in her attitude and effort. That message will encourage those mothers whose children are suffering from the disease dyslexia which I found very common these days. But the dicision that Mr.Awasthi (the father of Eeshan in the film) took in the film was a very hasty one because sending a child in a boaring school can not give a permanent solution to the problem taking this fact in consideration that a teacher like  Ram Shankar Nikumbh is rare these days who dare to take on challenges so bravely and selflessly. His address to the parents of Eeshan is indeed meant for all those parents who take hastry dicisions without thinking their consequences.

The performace of the child in the boarding school is absolutely magnificient and very much appealing as well. The role of Amir Khan will undoubetly remain one of the best performances ever played on the silver screen by any actor ever. The direction is superb. Never is the acting over the top by anyone. The climax is beautifully executed when Darsheel wins the art competition and is skeptical. He breaks down in disbelief, his confidence in himself restored.I watch with very moist eyes and I asked one question to myself 'Is Darsheel acting?' Please you ask yourself and send me the reply as soon as possible. I feel that tyhis is a must see film for all parents who really want to give a meaning to their upbringing of their child. The film forces us to ponder upon the message it conveys. Now I feel that Mr.Advani didn't cry by himself but the film made him cry by its extremely sensitive sequences.
     

Indian weddings display a beautiful and colorful display of different types of traditions and cultures. Due to the unparallel beauty and attraction of the Indian marriages, they are famous all over the world. The festivities of the Indian weddings charm the people world around. Both the families i. e. the families of the groom and the bride display their own traditions in a very gala way. One of the major areas of displaying this is obviously their accessories. In traditional Indian wedding, accessories play a vital role in defining the wedding outfit of the groom. Right selection of accessories makes the groom look elegant and smart. This type of accessories make the groom fit for an occasion like this where he is the centre of attraction of all eyes.
Today, the choice of the grooms is widely affected by the modern ideas of dress code and the contemporary grooms are defining their outfit with ethnic and modern accessories that complement their wedding attire. They are very particular about the kind of look they wish to have on their special day. To match a sherwani, a very popular dress of today for the grooms, a diamond cufflink will be a perfect accessory. Another important accessory is the pagri or the turban, which could be made interesting by using different fabrics like leheriyas, tie dyes, or self woven brocades. It is worn with Sherwanis, Jodhpuris or heavy Churidar Kurtas.
A pagri enhances the total look of the groom and has become a part of wedding fashion today. It is usually made of chunri, zari and ghatchola material and thus creates a colorful male adornment. Among the other important groom accessories are Kantha, which are long necklaces made of beads and white pearls and are usually worn as an ornament. A traditional moti mala worn along with an antique pendant or a broach enhances the look to a greater extent. Today the grooms are also focusing towards the imitation pearls, which are also known as the Hyderabadi pearls as they are found exclusively in Hyderabad only. These imitation pearls are adding more to the fashion these days. moreover the grooms today are often get stuck by the latest happening in the field of fashion. The fashion concious youth of today leave no option undone when it comes to adornment on the occasion of their special day - Their Wedding Day.

Marriage is an important part of the life of human beings. It marks the beginning of a fresh conjugal life where the husband and the wife vows to spend the remaining part of their life witheach other.They make promises to have faith in each other and to be side-by-side to share joy and sorrows whatever comes. The success of married life solely depends upon love and dedicatrion of the husband and wife towards one another.
Since earlier times, arranged marriage has been the most preferred by the parents opf the boy or the girl because in this form of marriage,they get a chance to make the best selection of life partner for their wards.Almost all the parents in the world share special dreams for the wedding of their wards which they do fulfill by negotiaying for the wedding of their wards.But these days, the other form of marriage,popularly known as Love marriage, has become more preferred by the youths of today.Here they get chance of finding their soul mates of their own choice.Today the young boys and girls have become more sensitive towards their own choice as far as their life is concerned.Their reason behind this lies in the fact that they have the full right to have their life partners acoording to their likings and dislikings.And to some extent, that reason is acceptable as well.
But the question is which form of marriage is more safe and acceptable? As far as safety is concerned, the arranged marriage seems to be safer as because the parents make all sorts of investigation before finalizing the relationship for their wards. It reduces the possibilitie of having a fake relationship.This type of a marriage gets the required recognition from the society as well as they becon\me a part of the wedding celebration. On the other hand, the loving duo are sometime unable to find out the shortcomings of their lover and beloved.This gives birth to several problems later on and due to these problems the whole family of both the husband and the wife have to suffer a lot.But it is equally true that if the lovers are cautious about their self in a relationship like this, they can make a better soul mate for themselves.
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This segment provides you the information about the different rituals that are observed by the Maharashtrian after the main wedding rituals get over:
Suun Mukh Baghne

In the Indian society, marriage is not just the meeting of two persons of opposite sexes, but of two souls and of two families. As a part of this ritual, the groom’s mother initiates the entry of her daughter-in-law in her new home. The bride’s mother-in-law (baghne) looks at her daughter-in-law's (sunn) face (mukh). She also looks at her face in the mirror. Thereafter, she combs her daughter-in-law’s hair. This tradition reminds of the beautiful mother-daughter relationship which obviously gives birth to a very healthy relationship between them.

Changing the Bride's Name

It has been a custom among the Maharashtrians to change the name of the girl after marriage. This ceremony is usually held at the groom’s house. Om Ganeshay Namah and the kuldevta's name are inscribed and then the bridegroom traces his wife’s name in a plate full of rice.

Reception Party

Reception party is hosted on the night of marriage. Special lunch is prepared for the occasion. Firstly, the groom’s family members are seated to savor the yummy lunch. The newly wedded couple takes rounds of the mandap, so as to ensure that everybody is having lunch and enjoying himself or herself. After that, the bride’s family is asked to have their lunch.

This section will provide you information on different rituals that are observed on during the actual wedding ceremony:

Ganesh Puja

As the Maharashtrians are the devotees of the Lord Ganesh, they pray to their Lord on the very beginning of their preparation for the final wedding rituals. On the morning of the wedding day, a puja is offered to Lord Ganesh to seek his blessings for the success of all the rituals that are supposed to follow during the whole day.

Seeman Puja

As the groom's entourage arrives at the wedding venue; a Seeman Puja is performed as a way of welcoming the groom. Afterwards, the parents of the bride wash the groom's feet and shower him with gifts.

Marriage Ceremony

At the time of shubh muhurat, the girl’s maternal uncle leads her to the mandap. The girl and boy are not allowed to glance at each other; therefore the girl is taken to the mandap by raising an Antarpaat (a white cloth that is used as a partition between the bride and groom. Thereafter, the shlokas are chanted and this is followed by the removal of Antarpaat. People shower Akshata (unbroken rice) on the couple. After that, the garlands are exchanged between the bride and groom. The couple takes seven mangal pheras in front of the holy fire considering Agni, the God of Fire, the witness of the union of the bride and the groom as the wife and the husband.

Laxmi Narayan Puja

The bride is considered to be goddess Laxmi and the groom is taken to be Lord Narayan. After the completion of marriage ceremony, Laxmi Narayan puja is conducted, in which the bride and groom are worshipped. Generally this puja is conducted by the priest who also conducts the whole wedding ceremony.

Jhal Phirawne
The girl’s hand is formally given to the boy in the ceremony known as Jhal Phirawne which is popularly known as Kanyadaan. In this ceremony, a cane dish is taken in which 21 lit lamps or diyas are placed. For the first time, the dish is placed on the bride's head. After that it is taken to the bridegroom's family and the bride’s father asks each member to accept his daughter as their own.
Ceremonial Breakfast

Since the wedding entourage usually arrives in the morning, the bride's parents spread out a lavish ceremonial breakfast in their honor.

Maharastra occupies a very important place in the Indian Repubic. This state is known far and wide for its lively and spirited life style. The Marathis or the Maharastrians,as the natives of this state are called, are known all over for their festive and gala mood. They celebrate the festivals like Ganesh Chaturthi and the Birthday of  Shivaji in a very distinctive manner, but when it comes to their marriage ceremony, their spirits know no limit.This post will provide with you the essential knowledge of the different rituals of the Maharashtrian Weddings which are observed before the final ceremonies are observed.

Sakhar Puda Ceremony

It is a pre wedding ritual that is performed traditionally in the respective places of the bride and the groom. This ritual involves exchange of a packet of sugar between the families of prospective bride and groom. These days the engagement ceremony is only known as Sakhar Puda, which takes place one or two days before the wedding date. In this ceremony, the to-be groom’s parents present a sari to the to-be bride. It indicates the fact that the girl has got the required acceptance in the boy’s family. Her hands are decorated with beautiful green bangles. That ceremony gives a formal beginning to whole marriage preparations for both the sides.

Wang Nischay

Wang Nischay refers to the formal engagement ceremony where a kuldevta-pujan is performed in both the houses after which the families meet up along with a priest.

Simant Puja

It is a traditional ritual, in which the to-be groom’s family visits the girl’s village. On their arrival, they are given a ceremonial welcome and are worshipped by the members of the bride’s family. Special lunch is prepared for them. This tradition is followed even today.

Halad Chadavane

On the day before wedding, the turmeric powder paste is applied to both the bride and groom at their respective houses by their family members and relatives. It is an important ritual of almost all the religions in India. It’s purely a family occasion which is primarily attended by the women of the families of the betrothed couple. Amidst singing of different songs meant for this special occasion, Halad i.e. a sacred paste made of turmeric is applied to the bride and the groom on their face, hands, palms, arms, neck and throat. It is an occasion of enjoyment and of merry making.

Hindu Wedding Day Rituals
Dear Friends,you have read the first part of the related post. The second part is here which will give you the detailed idea of the rituals that are observed during the main wedding day.

Vara Satkaarah – Here in this phase of the wedding affair, the bride’s party gives a formal and warm welcome to the bridegroom and his companions consisting of his relatives and friends at the entrance of the wedding hall/ venue where the officiating priest chants a few mantras and the bride's mother blesses the groom with rice and trefoil and applies tilak of vermilion and turmeric powder. Here the Groom becomes the centre of attraction for all who are present on the occasion.

Haldi – This is once again a very important ritual of the Hindu wedding ceremony. Here both the bride and the groom are applied sacred turmeric on their arms, hands, palms, face and forehead. This ritual is primarily attended by the women of their respective families. In this ceremony the bride and the groom feel purged with their new life which seems to begin in a very near future.

Kanya Dan –This is believed to be the most important and most sacred part of the whole wedding affair when the bride's father hands over his daughter to the groom amidst the chanting of sacred Vedic mantras. It is at this phase the girl becomes the bride of her husband. In the absence of the father of the bride, the uncle or the elder brother of the bride carries out this formality and earns a great privilege of his whole life.
Vivah-Homah - The sacred fire ceremony ascertaining that all auspicious undertakings are begun in an atmosphere of purity and spirituality. According to an established belief.

Pani-Grahan – In this part, groom takes the right hand of the bride in his left hand and accepts her as his lawfully wedded wife. This important part of the wedding ritual is carried out amidst chanting of sacred Vedic mantras. Here the tied hands are covered with a piece of red linen cloth.

Pratigna-Karan - The couple walks round the fire, the bride leading, and take solemn vows of loyalty, steadfast love, cooperation, sharing of joys and sorrows and life-long fidelity to each other. This is a very important part of Hindu wedding ceremony which affirms the strength and life-long longevity of the relationship.

Laja-Homah - Puffed rice offered as oblations into the sacred fire by the bride while keeping the palms of her hands over those of the groom. Here customarily, the brother of the bride gives her the puffed rice grains. This is a very important part of the wedding proceedings as after this the wedding rituals get nearly over. It is a very touching episode as well because it is at this point of time where the bride realizes that her relationship with her own people has become weaker with comparison to her new relationship which revolves around her husband and her in-laws.

Parikrama or Pradakshina - The couple goes around the sacred fire seven times amidst chanting the Veda mantras. This aspect of the ceremony legalizes the marriage according to the Hindu Marriage Act as well as custom.

Saptapadi - Marriage knot symbolized by tying one end of the groom's scarf with the bride's dress. Then they take seven steps representing nourishment, strength, prosperity, happiness, progeny, long life and harmony and understanding, respectively.

Abhishek - Sprinkling of water, meditating on the sun and the pole star.

Aashirvadah – Blessing of the newly-wed couple by the elders at the end of the wedding ceremonies get over. Here the newly-wed couple is offered presentation in cash or kind from the elders of the family.