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Friday 4 July, 2008
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Manage your In-laws properly


Relating to parent in-laws is sometimes the most decisive crisis of newly-married couples which sometimes causes problems in their life as well. The worst is some marriages were accidentally shattered by the parents of either or both sides. The reason may be because some parents do not like their son in-law or daughter in-law from the very beginning which is not good for the newly-wed. What the reasons may be, problems with hard parent in-laws should be dealt properly to avoid further problems. That is why it is very essential to meet up the parents first before the marriage actually materializes. But now that it did not happen or your first meeting did not have a positive result, one has now to face the circumstances. However, I feel that the advises listed below will certainly help you to solve such a problem if you have ever ion your life:


A. Live in your way:  Try to convince your spouse to live in a separate dwelling quite a distance from your in-laws. Here convincing your spouse becomes important because in normal conditions it is found that the husband does not take such a decision quite easily. It becomes important not only to be more independent, but also to avoid any misunderstandings in the future. However, accepting the advantages over the disadvantages in a real and practical manner will somehow change the mind of your spouse.


B. Be social: At times you will realize that your in-laws will be getting into your nerves, then you should always maintain your self-control. Sometimes it becomes difficult to keep calm and although you might feel fighting every time you talk, find ways to avoid it. Fighting with one’s in-laws is not all a healthy manner to make a marriage successful. Never force your spouse to make a selection between you and his or her parents, simply because this comparison is not at all practical.


C. Get going with your own business: To avoid any unwanted conflict with your in-law’s, get yourself very busy with other things such as work and hobbies so that you could minimize your communication. Parent in-laws are more immature when they learn that their child is working hard while you are just at home not earning a single penny. Keeping yourself busy will also change your focus and will help you forget about your conflict with them.


D. Sense their low point: Everyone has his/her own weakness and if you learn them, it becomes easier for you to maintain a good relationship. If your parent in-law will realize that you have something in common, there is a big possibility that the tension will be less important. Most mother in-laws enjoy cooking, while father in-laws love to talk about the current issues and politics. You can ask your spouse where to start with.


E. Prove your point and stand: This does not mean you should confront them for an argument. You can prove to them that their child did not make a mistake in marrying you in many humble ways. Be a caring and caring father and mother of your children is one of them.Being a good and sensitive spouse is another effective way of establishing a balance in the relationship.Share the best that you can give to your better half. If your parents-in-laws know all these things about you, they will have no reasons to be hard on you.

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